A Quick Survey of your Communication Experiences
Do you feel relief at the end of the conversation?◊ Yes ◊No
Do you feel that your feelings were validated?◊Yes ◊No
Have you had a conversation with someone and didn’t
feel like your were heard/validated?◊Yes ◊No
Have you had a conversation and at the end you felt
frustrated and even more upset, depressed…etc?◊Yes ◊No
Have you had something pressing to share with
someone and they monopolized the conversation?◊Yes ◊No
Do you feel that your relationship is a safe place to
share your thoughts and feelings?◊Yes ◊No
Do you feel that you are constantly being criticized for
a difference in opinions or feelings? ◊Yes ◊No
- If your answers match the responses in read, you are likely experiencing frustration during your conversations with your loved one. We oftentimes take communication with one another for granted; however, with repeated frustrations and unmet needs there is a likelihood for anger to set in your relationships.
*Is a learned skill
*Is a two-way street interaction.
*The purpose is to convey a message so that it is received and understood
by someone in exactly the way it was intended.
*Goal is to listen in order to gain the full meaning of what is
being said and to make the other person feel heard and
*In the day to day interactions, one seeks to communicate with
friends and family with the hope that their concerns would be
heard/ to experience relief.
Ineffective communication can destroy a relationship, whether it is a friendship, marriage, business partnership and/or parent/child relationship. Effective communication is a skill that can be taught and it is essential in every aspects of one’s life. Rules of engagement/communication are passed from between generations. Poor communication skills can be unlearned.
There are two pivotal factors to healthy communication: active listening and validation.
Active Listening : Listening with the intend to hear the emotions behind the words. Once you are able to identify the emotions that the other person may be experiencing, you then can reflect their emotions back to them. Reflecting back their emotions indicates that you are listening. Active listening is one of the way you can demonstrate empathy.
Validation: Recognizing and accepting an individual’s internal experience as their own, their valid experience. Validating one’s experience does not mean you agree with their perceptions or decisions.
If you and your loved one are experiencing roadblocks in communication, know that you are not alone. Seek help to introduce or regain healthy communication in your relationships. Support is available for you through EMBRACE Therapy (www.iembracetherapy.com